Manuals

Go deeper, at your own pace.

The free guides cover the basics. The manuals are longer and more practical, and they take one thing at a time. Read them on the bus, come back to them before a date, and keep them.

For adults (18+). Frank, never explicit.

Plain explanations

What's going on and why it matters, without the jargon.

Things to try

Small, specific things to practise this week.

Example lines, not scripts

Ways of putting it, to adapt into your own words.

Check-yourself questions

So you can tell whether it's working for both of you.

The manuals

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Comfortable Company

Making it easy to be around you.

Nobody connects while they're on guard. This one's about being the person people relax with, from the first message to the walk home.

Inside

  • pacing a first meeting
  • plans that feel safe and easy to leave
  • telling "I'm enjoying this" from "I'm being polite"
  • the small habits that make you good company

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Core

Say What You Want

Expectations, out loud, without the awkwardness.

Casual, serious, not sure yet: all fine, as long as you both know. How to say where you're at, ask where they're at, and actually hear the answer.

Inside

  • working out what you want first
  • the "what is this?" conversation
  • when your wants don't match
  • keeping it honest as things change

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Core

Flirting as an Offer

Consent-based advances that feel good on both sides.

Flirting is great. Pressure isn't. This one's about making an offer that's easy to accept and just as easy to turn down, and being good company either way.

Inside

  • flirting versus pushing
  • asking for a kiss without killing the moment
  • reading enthusiasm, not just the absence of a no
  • taking a no or a "not yet" well

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Pace, Intensity and Care

The grown-up conversation about what someone actually likes.

Everyone's different. Slow or quick, firm or sensual: the only way to know is to ask, and to keep checking. A frank, non-explicit guide to finding out and looking after each other.

Inside

  • pacing and checking in
  • talking about intensity before, not during
  • firm versus sensual, and how to ask
  • praise with care

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