01
Ease
Make it easy to be around you.
Nobody connects while they're on guard. Safety comes first: sensible plans, an easy pace, and a clear way out that nobody gets punished for using.
About
Consent-focused coaching that actually connects.
No tricks, no routines, no lines borrowed from a forum. Just the stuff that actually works: making people comfortable, being yourself, saying what you want out loud, and building something you both want.
The idea
Pickup gets you a night. Honesty gets you someone who comes back.
Most dating advice for men is built on a trick. Say the right thing in the right order and get a result before anyone works out what's going on. Sometimes that works, in the narrowest sense. You might get a night out of it. You won't get trust, and you won't get someone who wants to see you again because of who you actually are.
This site starts from the other end. People relax when they feel safe. They open up when you're straight with them. And the moments worth having are the ones where you both know what's going on and you both want it.
It's not the soft option. It's the better one, and it takes a bit more nerve.
"Relationship" doesn't only mean boyfriend and girlfriend.
It might be a few great dates. A regular thing you're both clear about. Something casual, something serious, or something you haven't got a word for yet. What makes any of it work is that both of you know where you stand. We don't mind what shape yours takes. We care that it's honest, agreed, and good for both of you.
The approach
Four moves. In that order.
02
Real
Drop the mask, no script.
Be the actual you. Say true things, including the slightly awkward ones like "I'm a bit nervous". Real beats smooth, and people can tell the difference.
03
Ask
Say what you want, then listen.
Talk about expectations out loud. Flirt by all means, as an offer, not a test. Every advance comes with a real chance to say no, and a no is a proper answer.
04
Connect
Build something you both want.
When it's agreed, it's better. That goes for a conversation, a kiss, and whatever comes after.
What you'll find here, and what you won't.
You'll find:
- Plain advice on talking, flirting and asking well.
- Practice you can do on your own: drills and short guides.
- Honest help with communication and expectations.
- A bit of cheek. It's dating, not a tax return.
You won't find:
- Pickup tactics, negging, "frame control", or anything that only works if they don't notice.
- Explicit content. Frank, yes. Explicit, no.
- Therapy or a crisis service.
- Promises about any particular person. Other people get to choose, and that's the point.
How it works
Free to learn. Pay if you want to go further.
Free
The method, the practice drills and the guides are free, and they're staying free.
Start with the guidesManuals
Longer, practical guides that take one topic at a time. One-off price, yours to keep.
Browse the manualsClasses and mentoring
1:1 sessions and small group or online classes, for when you'd rather talk it through with a person.
See classes and mentoringComing up: new material on pacing, reading intensity, the difference between firm and sensual, and giving praise with care. All of it built around the same idea: find out what someone actually wants, and check as you go. Same consent-first approach, never explicit.
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Who's behind it
Hi, I'm Johnny.
I started Fuck Advisor because I got tired of pickup advice. The lines, the routines, the rules about never looking too keen: they're built to get a result before anyone notices what's going on. They made guys worse company, not better. [ADD DETAIL: one sentence on what made it click for you.]
What actually works is much simpler. Help her feel at ease. Be honest about who you are and what you want. Ask clearly instead of guessing, and be fine with whatever the answer is. Funny how well that goes once you stop performing.
So that's what I coach. Ordinary guys, whether they're nervous, rusty, or have read far too much online, learning to talk, flirt and ask in a way that leaves both people feeling good about it. No scripts, no games. [ADD DETAIL: where you're based, or who you usually work with.]
I'm a coach, not a therapist. If something needs a different kind of help, I'll tell you straight.
A few things we don't budge on.
- Consent is the point, not a hurdle on the way to it.
- Nobody owes you a yes, a reason, or a second date.
- No is a full answer. So is "not yet".
- Ease and safety come before chemistry, not after.
- Be someone it's easy to say no to. That's who people end up saying yes to.
- Frank, warm, a bit cheeky. Never explicit, never preachy.